Would you take a refugee Ukrainanian family ?

[Gerry557]

The going back part might be difficult. Even if you have something to go back too.

Assuming the fighting is halted at some point soon, it will take years to rebuild. I can't see them wanting to go back to a ravaged city especially if they have drastic memories of the escape.

Still some people are more resilient then we give credit for.

The £350 scheme is per residence so might not work trying to put 2 or 3 lots in a vacant place. It does sound a bit more like it supports the "landlord" and I wouldn't want to be seen profiting off people's misery.

As for zoom schooling, it's hard to play football in the yard, meet new friends etc. I suspect they will speak more English than we will Ukrainian. I'm sure the kids will adapt much better than the adults.

The good news is over 90k have registered interest.

[DrFfybes]

We had a lot of discussion on this over the weekend, and in the end we decided we wouldn't take in Refugees.

MrsF had lodgers in the early days, and I've always had lodgers up until 5 years ago when I finally moved in with MrsF.

However as we're spending more time at home, and have spread our stuff around the house, we find we actually want the privacy and peace and quiet. Lockdown has been lovely, and the odd visitors we've had, mainly MrsF's London based friends with (to my mind) unusual expectations[1]) have been an intrusion.

Then there's the difference between a refugee and a lodger. You have them for 6 months, there is an obligation, the tinfoil-hat conspiracy theorist lodger lasted 10 long difficult weeks, mainly locked in his room. The financial and practical side is fine, but there will be a need for emotional support, something that was hard enough to do with our parents, and if we'd wanted to do that we would have bred. I've heard expectations of a young family with the father left behind, perhaps a grateful mother who would help around the place and someone who would walk the dog, but there is a pretty equal likelyhood that you will get a couple of pensioners who grew up before learning English became common. People who can't go back and help rebuild.

So for us, the help will be restricted to the practicalities, money to the Red Cross, local community support for any arriving in the village, and my brief dream of finally clearing 2 bedrooms of stuff that hasn't come out of the box since before we were married has gone.

Paul

[1] "Oh no, it HAS to be 300 thread count as a minimum in a B&B.... Are you sure there's no organic Oat milk in the village shop? - can't we send an Uber into town for some?"

[stevensfo]

We had a lot of discussion on this over the weekend, and in the end we decided we wouldn't take in Refugees.

MrsF had lodgers in the early days, and I've always had lodgers up until 5 years ago when I finally moved in with MrsF.

However as we're spending more time at home, and have spread our stuff around the house, we find we actually want the privacy and peace and quiet. Lockdown has been lovely, and the odd visitors we've had, mainly MrsF's London based friends with (to my mind) unusual expectations[1]) have been an intrusion.

Then there's the difference between a refugee and a lodger. You have them for 6 months, there is an obligation, the tinfoil-hat conspiracy theorist lodger lasted 10 long difficult weeks, mainly locked in his room. The financial and practical side is fine, but there will be a need for emotional support, something that was hard enough to do with our parents, and if we'd wanted to do that we would have bred. I've heard expectations of a young family with the father left behind, perhaps a grateful mother who would help around the place and someone who would walk the dog, but there is a pretty equal likelyhood that you will get a couple of pensioners who grew up before learning English became common. People who can't go back and help rebuild.

So for us, the help will be restricted to the practicalities, money to the Red Cross, local community support for any arriving in the village, and my brief dream of finally clearing 2 bedrooms of stuff that hasn't come out of the box since before we were married has gone.

Paul

[1] "Oh no, it HAS to be 300 thread count as a minimum in a B&B.... Are you sure there's no organic Oat milk in the village shop? - can't we send an Uber into town for some?"

I don't think I could stand anyone like that for more than two minutes. I still remember the Catherine Tate 'Posh mum' character.

To be honest though, we all have our little habits. My wife cannot start the day without her organic yoghurt and fruit, while I tend to read the labels on everything and avoid sugar like the plague.

As for &^#$@!! vegans? Can't wait for the bbq season to start!!


Steve

[quelquod]

My wife and I discussed this for quite some time before deciding against. Whilst the government seems keen to vet prospective applicants for the scheme I’m very unsure what sort of vetting is possible in the confusion of the refugees themselves. I just can’t take the chance of dishonesty or violence and I’ve not even got the length of asking the views of my insurer, so a bit sadly we will be restricting ourselves to charitable giving.

[anon155742]

Remember to consider disease risk.

Tuberculosis is one example and is rife in Ukraine and other ex-soviet states, with the drug resistant varieties a major problem.

The risk will have increased due to the hardship inflicted by the war.

https://www.euro.who.int/en/countries/ukraine/news/news/2021/3/world-tuberculosis-day-supporting-ukraine-in-scaling-up-tb-diagnosis-and-treatment

[servodude]

Remember to consider disease risk.

Tuberculosis is one example and is rife in Ukraine and other ex-soviet states, with the drug resistant varieties a major problem.

The risk will have increased due to the hardship inflicted by the war.

https://www.euro.who.int/en/countries/ukraine/news/news/2021/3/world-tuberculosis-day-supporting-ukraine-in-scaling-up-tb-diagnosis-and-treatment

I really don't know what to say; this is the charitable giving board
If I use an allegory or comparison of suitable strength I don't doubt it will be pulled

[anon155742]

I really don't know what to say; this is the charitable giving board
If I use an allegory or comparison of suitable strength I don't doubt it will be pulled

It is also an investment forum. Risk is important and there has been copious discussion on medical risk over the past few years.

[Lootman]

I really don't know what to say; this is the charitable giving board. If I use an allegory or comparison of suitable strength I don't doubt it will be pulled

It is also an investment forum. Risk is important and there has been copious discussion on medical risk over the past few years.

I would like to think that any refugees who are admitted to the UK would first have a health check before they mix with the general population. Particularly if they are coming from a war zone where basic hygiene and medical care has ceased to be available.

[pje16]

I would like to think that any refugees who are admitted to the UK would first have a health check before they mix with the general population. Particularly if they are coming from a war zone where basic hygiene and medical care has ceased to be available.

A very good point, but whether that happens or not who knows

[Lootman]

I would like to think that any refugees who are admitted to the UK would first have a health check before they mix with the general population. Particularly if they are coming from a war zone where basic hygiene and medical care has ceased to be available.

A very good point, but whether that happens or not who knows

There is also the point that DrFFybes made, that on an individual level you have no control over who you get. In theory these people should be incredibly appreciative of the sanctuary and shelter being given to them, and ensure that they help out and contribute as much as possible to the household.

But they may also be traumatised, scared, resentful, dishonest or who knows what? So it would be a lottery.

[bungeejumper]

I really don't know what to say; this is the charitable giving board
If I use an allegory or comparison of suitable strength I don't doubt it will be pulled

It is also an investment forum.

No it isn't. Have you actually read the keynote topic for this forum? Go on, make the effort. viewtopic.php?f=108&t=33534

BJ

[Lootman]

I really don't know what to say; this is the charitable giving board
If I use an allegory or comparison of suitable strength I don't doubt it will be pulled

It is also an investment forum.

No it isn't. Have you actually read the keynote topic for this forum? Go on, make the effort. viewtopic.php?f=108&t=33534

Fair point. However, normally charitable giving does not entail personal risk. When the "donation" goes beyond merely giving cash or donating items, to actually letting strangers move into your home, then some analysis and assessment of risk seems reasonable.

Taking in refugees is more akin to volunteering than charitable giving in the conventional sense of the word. My own preference would be to rent housing to people I choose and can get rid of, and then donate some of the profits to the cause.

[stevensfo]

I would like to think that any refugees who are admitted to the UK would first have a health check before they mix with the general population. Particularly if they are coming from a war zone where basic hygiene and medical care has ceased to be available.

A very good point, but whether that happens or not who knows

My experience working for an enormous Science park with their own Medical Centre mirrors a scene in 'Not Going Out'.

"Okay, you have to answer one or two questions. Are you in reasonable health?"

-- Er, yes.

"Fine, off you go then."

--But...

"Bye!"


Steve