Scattering Ashes - Public Place

[Breelander]

From the Web Site of a Fishing club which shall remain anonymous....

Not for long.... not if it's on the web.

Innocent days back in 2006 when the club secretary published a document by an unknown author that had been passed down through the Club’s Committee.

[PinkDalek]

From the Web Site of a Fishing club which shall remain anonymous....

Not for long.... not if it's on the web.

Innocent days back in 2006 when the club secretary published a document by an unknown author that had been passed down through the Club’s Committee.

Roger to that.

[scotia]

Not for long.... not if it's on the web.
Roger to that

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Clever Clogs!

[UncleEbenezer]

Roger to that.

Don't you mean Walter?

[AleisterCrowley]

I'm planning on a bit of me in my various locals, some on the Severn Valley Railway as ballast, and what's left up at the churchyard with the view of the hills looking west towards Wales.
Not that I'll get to appreciate it really

[scotia]

Don't you mean Walter?

Roger may be following this stream of helpful advice (although I hope not) - but Walter is certainly past caring!

[sg31]

Dad died a year before Mum. Unfortunately she had very bad dementia and never knew he had died. (She had no short term memory so telling her would have upset her and she would have forgotten therefore the process would have had to have been repeated every time we saw her).

Mum died the following year. We had decided to keep dads ashes until mum died so we could scatter them together.

There was a little river that runs through a park near Sheffield, it's course runs past all the areas where they has first met, lived, worked, had kids and brought us up, it seemed as good a place to scatter the ashes as we could think of. There was a little bridge over the river so we decided to pour the ashes slowly into the river to be carried by the current past all the places they knew. It was a good plan, unfortunately the ashes were a lot heavier than water , some of the lighter particles did flow away, the majority sank into one pale coloured mound on the bottom. Not much we could do about it and in time the river would rise and wash the particles downstream.

I'm not the sentimental type but it did get to me. Anyway we did the best we could for them.

I had no idea we needed permission, I'm sure it would have been a problem if we had asked. In the end nobody saw us so it wasn't an issue.

MIL died earlier this year, she specifically wanted her ashes scattering in a little wood in Sheffield, I'd never heard of it but when I researched it I found it was about 50 yards from where we scattered mum and dad's ashes. This time I knew we should ask for permission but we went ahead anyway. Nobody saw us.

I wanted my ashes tipping over the side of the footbridge at Arley, straight into the River Severn, My wife has other ideas, she says that I've spent enough time fishing in the river and she wants our ashes scattering together somewhere else. I can't even get my own way when I'm dead.

[AleisterCrowley]

Arley, good choice. If I'm track ballast on the SVR I may see you at some point

[sg31]

If I'm in the garden I can hear the train whistles as they approach Arley station.

The wife could saunter down to the bridge, have a drink at the pub to fortify herself, chuck me off the bridge and walk back home. She still won't do it.

She reckons when I'm gone she's going to buy a dog to keep her company, at least it won't spend all it's time fishing. I never realise I could be so easily replaced. She will miss me when I'm gone.... but not much apparently.

[AleisterCrowley]

The (only) good thing about being ashes is, for the first time, you really can be in more than one place at once.
I'm going to specify 20% SVR, 20% Tasley Churchyard by the field gate, and the remaining 60% spread equally around several pubs...

[Kipling]

I can give a first hand example - I worked on a UK-domestic ferry one summer. We were approached through our head office to facilitate the scattering of ashes for a family. There were no objections to the scattering of the ashes in UK waters. I am also not aware of any prohibition under the Merchant Shipping Acts.

I'd arranged a wash down of a leeward mooring station beforehand, a steward introduced me to the family, I took them down and then stepped into the background while they said their goodbyes and scattered the ashes.

I think the whole process, without rushing anyone, took twenty minutes.

K.

[Dod101]

For over a year he stayed on the bookshelf horrifying any locals that were made aware of him. It was a shock to them because it was unheard of (because apparently I shouldn't have been keeping him there).

My mother in law was in a tin can for several years before we got around to interning her in her desired way. Her remains were a door stop for the longest time. The front door, at that. As guests arrived, they would be introduced to her. Reactions varied.

MIL was interned in the tin can but I assume you were intending to inter her ashes. English gets quite complicated.

Dod

[Pipsmum]

We've still got Uncle on the hall table. He never left any wishes that we knew of, but we'll eventually put him in the sea where he liked to go fishing. A matter of when, because it's a long way, but for now he's a welcome guest. Doesn't need much feeding and doesn't need much looking after. He gets some new flowers put upon him whenever we think of it. He never came to my house when he was alive, so he can stay here a while. He's happy and we're happy.

[Lootman]

For over a year he stayed on the bookshelf horrifying any locals that were made aware of him. It was a shock to them because it was unheard of (because apparently I shouldn't have been keeping him there).

My mother in law was in a tin can for several years before we got around to interning her in her desired way. Her remains were a door stop for the longest time. The front door, at that. As guests arrived, they would be introduced to her. Reactions varied.

MIL was interned in the tin can but I assume you were intending to inter her ashes. English gets quite complicated.

The tin was a temporary container. At some point she was transferred to a plastic bag, which went into a box, then in a backpack, and finally into a river. She is in the English Channel somewhere now.

[Dod101]

So really she was neither interned nor interred but scattered to the four winds. That is what I would like except that I have chosen a woodland glade.

Strictly speaking you were disposing of her mortal remains. I find it difficult to think of a body lying in a grave as being a 'he' or a 'she', all the more so in the case of a pile of ash. Anyway enough on this gloomy subject.

Dod

[bungeejumper]

I'm planning on a bit of me in my various locals, some on the Severn Valley Railway as ballast, and what's left up at the churchyard with the view of the hills looking west towards Wales.
Not that I'll get to appreciate it really

Can't speak for the Severn Valley Railway, but on the West Somerset line I gather you can go into the firebox. Ashes to dust in one move.

BJ

[AleisterCrowley]

That'd suit me.

And 'Bury my heart at Evercreech Junction'

[bungeejumper]

And 'Bury my heart at Evercreech Junction'

Funny, people generally seem to choose Midsomer Norton. Well, people who've never been to Midsomer Norton, anyway

The pretty name is the best part of the place, which has been a bit of a dead hole ever since Beeching killed the railway and the coal mines closed. Mind you, they did film the Titfield Thunderbolt a couple of miles further up the line.

BJ

[AleisterCrowley]

Never been there (Evercreech)- but remember this TV programme
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BSMOMAAr2pA

[bungeejumper]

Never been there (Evercreech)- but remember this TV programme
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BSMOMAAr2pA

Ah yes, thanks for the memory.

BJ