Ex girlfriend advice

[bungeejumper]

3 of my ex girlfriends came to my wedding. My wife once went on a hen night and shared a room with 3 other girls. All of which were my ex girl friends (I've never asked what they talked about that weekend). One lives 20 feet away from me across the road. She comes over for dinner once a month.

You, sir, are a rarity. My wife doesn't mind the idea of my having had previous partners, any more than I mind hers, but usually the deal is that you try not to meet them. On the one occasion that I met with one of my wife's exes, a wealthy businessman, he gave me a knuckle-crush handshake just to demonstrate his dominance. To this day, I wish I'd kicked him in the nuts.

BJ

[AleisterCrowley]

Well, perhaps unsurprisingly, I've never been married so that's one complication less (fewer?)

On the ex-girlfriend front (and what a front...) - complete silence, so guess she was stuffing her Linkedin contacts

[JMN2]

The problem with these old flames is that they've become old. Old and often fat, perhaps brats and stretchmarks. That's a lot of baggage. Never be fooled by nostalgia.

[AleisterCrowley]

Ah, but so have we....

[kiloran]

Ah, but so have we....

That would be the "Royal We", I assume

--kiloran

[Beerpig]

Go for it.
Three reasons.

(i) You have absolutely nothing to lose
(ii) One way or another you lay the ghost that is clearly still on your shoulder
(iii) Its not the things you do in your life that you end up regretting. Its the things you didn't do.

[AleisterCrowley]

Its not the things you do in your life that you end up regretting. Its the things you didn't do.
I'm sure there are plenty of people in Wormwood Scrubs who would disagree!

[redsturgeon]

As you know, I'm with Beerpig on this one.

Do it...do it...do it!

Say hi and ask her how she is.

John

[JMN2]

Ah, but so have we....

No! AC, you're in your prime!

[Leothebear]

he gave me a knuckle-crush handshake just to demonstrate his dominance. To this day, I wish I'd kicked him in the nuts.

Wouldn't a better reposte have been to say (with a smile) "Really strong hand you have there but my dick is much bigger. (she told me)"

[melonfool]

LI is not where you go to stalk exes, that's Facebook (DAMHIK).

If you've not seen her for years but somehow magically know she is single, why not meet for a drink?

It sounds like the ending was all her decision and she's got over the commitment stuff now since she has committed and uncommitted and worked out what a load of tosh all that is....

I have one ex who bounces back all the time, but every time I realise the reason we are not together is because he's flaky and I can't cope with that (I don't want commitment, but I do want someone who turns up to dinner when you've cooked, makes arrangements on the days you've agreed to go out rather than disappearing for weeks and then saying they were 'ill') - he's not got any less flaky over the years and I've not got any more tolerant of it. I've now removed him from all social media and blocked him on my phone etc, so the only way he can contact me is via email, or turn up at my house, and if he knows he's been blocked elsewhere, I assume he's smart enough not to bother.

I'm friends with quite a few exes (but I have a LOT) and that's all fine.

Most recent ex*, I don't care if I never see him or hear from him again.

Drop her a line!

Mel

(* well, not the *most* recent, the most recent of the significant - I had a brief fling in December)

[AleisterCrowley]

What if she goes ballistic and calls me a stalker!!

[DiamondEcho]

I'm not convinced you are taking this seriously. If I were the OP I might be somewhat axeasperated.

I think that's what happens when she cleaves the 12 pounds of bronze through your chest.

[melonfool]

What if she goes ballistic and calls me a stalker!!

You ignore it and stop contact as she's clearly gone insane.

She added you. One message after seven years would be a pretty rubbish stalking strategy.

Though, ime, people add you, wait a few weeks......then message you. So, you could just wait a while.

Mel

[AleisterCrowley]

Wait a while. Sounds like my sort of strategy, as I am sloth-like ...