I was just trying not to post too much info because I was always think I might bump into Jane from accounts on the boards, so to speak
She's not keen on any treatment really and it turns out she was instinctively correct, they've now said her heart is too weak for them to attempt to remove the clot via surgery. So she's been released mostly because they can't do anything.
She has a lot of other health problems too, as do most of her friends in that age range and her two best friends died a couple of years ago. I think she wants whatever time is left to be free of endless doc visits or hospital stays which is entirely understandable.
Now that the shock has worn off I realise part of my panic is not just losing her but having to deal with dad alone. Such fun. But I realise after the last week, I can't really comment on any of the medical stuff because I know she wants to go. If they do find anything they can do then I think dad will pressure her a lot anyway.
He is absolutely panic stricken at the thought of her going before him.