Re: Jaded
Posted: June 4th, 2018, 8:21 pm
Sorry to have missed this and that you felt low over it all - fwiw I've done a few voluntary roles myself and it takes a lot of stamina to stay in them despite these sorts of things.
A few things do spring to mind though:
1) the club and/or the Leisure Centre should have a properly defined complaints/dispute resolution procedure. That way, no single person will determine the outcome of a complaint and it will be more just.
2) there should be some criteria to move up to 'stage 2'. With skiing, for example, it's usually something simple like 'can stop and do linked turns'. But, whatever it is, it should always be 'and the coach's decision is final'.
3) I'd be inviting the centre manager to come to a session, then he can see how well it runs and why the way you run it usually works.
4) I'd also be telling him the actual problem with her play and saying that as you decided she was not ready and he overruled, that you would like him to come and do a risk assessment of the session before you move her into the full game. H&S is his responsibility so he would presumably need to do this.
5) I agree with RS about the comms/FB/WA groups - it is bullying.
6) you are not selfish nor the sort of person who needs to be centre of attention. I worry a lot that I am like my father. But, as my mother once told me*, I am not like him, nor like her, I am like me. When you mix blue and yellow together you don't get a bit of blue and a bit of yellow - you get green, a totally new thing with its own identity. We are all green.
Anyway - you've made the right decisions. Dude.
Mel
(* I can honestly say it's the only useful thing she has ever said to me)
A few things do spring to mind though:
1) the club and/or the Leisure Centre should have a properly defined complaints/dispute resolution procedure. That way, no single person will determine the outcome of a complaint and it will be more just.
2) there should be some criteria to move up to 'stage 2'. With skiing, for example, it's usually something simple like 'can stop and do linked turns'. But, whatever it is, it should always be 'and the coach's decision is final'.
3) I'd be inviting the centre manager to come to a session, then he can see how well it runs and why the way you run it usually works.
4) I'd also be telling him the actual problem with her play and saying that as you decided she was not ready and he overruled, that you would like him to come and do a risk assessment of the session before you move her into the full game. H&S is his responsibility so he would presumably need to do this.
5) I agree with RS about the comms/FB/WA groups - it is bullying.
6) you are not selfish nor the sort of person who needs to be centre of attention. I worry a lot that I am like my father. But, as my mother once told me*, I am not like him, nor like her, I am like me. When you mix blue and yellow together you don't get a bit of blue and a bit of yellow - you get green, a totally new thing with its own identity. We are all green.
Anyway - you've made the right decisions. Dude.
Mel
(* I can honestly say it's the only useful thing she has ever said to me)